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Understanding Bullies and the Act of Bullying

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Yes. You read it right. We are to understand bullies. Although we are not to assume that all bullies are emotionally scarred because of an unhappy childhood, or just “paying-it-forward” by bullying others, we are to shed little bit of light to why they act in such a way. Are you still with me? :)

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Bullies Enjoy Audience

www.stopbullying.gov posits an interesting, often overlooked elements of bullies; the audiences. Bullying is reinforced by the outsiders. Think of them as mere spectators in an MMA fight that screams, “kill,”or shouts, “knock his @#$!! out.”

These elements give the bully an illusion that it’s ok to intimidate, coerce, and scare someone. Audiences and supporters. They do get involved, but a little laughter and reinforcement goes a long way to bullies.

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Much like the Silver Back Apes of the Congo, bullies have posse’s. These are kids who assist the bully. They are more likely to become bullies themselves after a short while. These kids do not instigate the bullies. Think of this kid as the creepy little dude that gives the bad king bad advices.

What Bullies Want

Based on studies, these are things that bullies require:

  1. Recognition / fullfilment
  2. Space
  3. Superiority
  4. Engagement

What We Can Do

Do we focus on the person, or on the behavior? It is very tempting to address the and label the bully disturbed, ill-mannered, or just plain evil. As adults, we need to recognize the behavior and address that behavior rather than addressing the bully. Remember that to become effective counselors to address bullying behaviors, we should address the behavior and not the person.

Remember: bullying is a behavior. It is a behavior learned, therefore it can be unlearned and corrected.

An Answer to Bullying? 

No Bullying CampaignGracie Barra is commited in becoming an organization against bullying. So far, we have seen success stories of bullied kids after being enrolled in the anti-bullying program. Although, bully-proofing starts at home, we are happy to let everyone know that our campaign has seen success and has even given recognition in media.

For more information on Gracie Barra’s Bully Proof Program CLICK HERE. 

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